Stop People's Opinions from Affecting you Negatively

It's natural for us to want to be accepted and appreciated by people around us. However, this often leads us to becoming very sensitive to other people's opinions and judgments when it comes to making our own decisions. While seeking validation from others is normal, it can become a problem when it starts to affect our self-esteem and overall well-being. We're gonna learn a few practical ways to stop other people's judgments from affecting our mental health and personal decision-making.

But first, let's read this affirmation out loud three times to empower ourselves to take control of our own lives and live in confidence.

1. Practice self-awareness: Being mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and actions can help you recognize when someone else's opinion is affecting you. This awareness can help you identify patterns of negative self-talk, and make positive changes. Ask yourself: Am I making this decision because I truly want it or am I peer pressured

2. Set boundaries: You have the right to determine what opinions and comments you allow into your life. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and positive, and distance yourself from those who are not.

3. Focus on your own values: Instead of worrying about what others think, focus on your own values and goals. Ask yourself what is important to you, and make decisions that align with those values. This can help you feel more confident in your choices, even if others do not agree.

4. Reframe your thoughts: When negative thoughts start to creep in, try to reframe them in a more positive way. Ask yourself, "Is this thought helpful or harmful?" If it is harmful, challenge it and replace it with a more positive thought.

5. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding that you would show to a friend. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes, and that it is okay to not always be perfect.

6. Seek support: Talk to someone you trust, such as a friend, family member, or counselor. They can help you process your thoughts and feelings and provide a different perpesctive.

7. Stay focused on the present: Don't let past experiences or future worries dictate your decisions. Stay focused on the present, and make decisions based on what is best for you right now.

Activity:

Write down one to three goals that you're working on in your life, whether its personal, career, or health related and reflect on your personal values that drive you to follow through with these goals on a daily basis. Ask yourself these questions:

• If I lived in a completely different country without knowing anyone or having any external pressures, would I still have the same values and goals I'm pursuing?

• What's one thing I would do differently if no one's opinion mattered to me?

Let's say this duaa (prayer in Islam) to help bring tranquility and confidence in our lives as we speak up for ourselves and set our boundaries mentally and emotionally.

By following these practical steps, you can start to gain control over your thoughts and feelings with practice. prevent others' opinions from affecting you mentally. Remember, you are in charge of your life, and you have the power to make decisions that are right for you.

Lots of love,

NAS